The Space Between Who You Were and Who You’re Becoming
There’s a strange, often unsettling space that many people pass through when they decide to change.
You no longer want to be the person you’ve been – but you haven’t yet figured out who you’re becoming.
This is what I like to call a transitional identity: a state of flux where your old habits, beliefs, and behaviours no longer feel like home, but your new self hasn’t quite settled in yet. It’s an in-between phase, where nothing feels fully set or certain. It’s a fragile state.
You might notice some extreme shifts during this time:
The person who used to avoid the gym might now fear missing even one session.
The person who once ate without thought may now get stressed at the idea of an “unhealthy” meal.
It’s how the pendulum swings – after spending so long at one extreme, it can feel necessary to explore the opposite end. And that’s okay. That swing is part of the process. The hope is that, over time, the pendulum settles somewhere in the middle – into balance.
This transitional space can feel confusing or uncomfortable, but it’s also where transformation takes root.
You are letting go of who you were, even if you don’t yet know who you are becoming.
And in that, there’s discomfort – but also a sense of excitement.